Thursday, March 24, 2016
I've learned within the last year and a half that it's okay to ask for help. Seriously, hear me out.
With my mom living with me and her being in and out of the hospital more times than I care to count, it can get stressful. I thought I had to go it alone. I thought I'd be considered weak if I asked for help. I'm Super Woman; I can do it all.
My husband, bless his ever lovin' heart, has always been a tremendous help. And so have our kids. But I still felt it a burden that they had to bear the brunt with me.
It wasn't until not too long ago that I learned people (well most people anyway) were more than willing to help out. And I didn't learn that lesson on my own.
My husband took note that I was bearing a lot of stress and during one particular time of mom being in the hospital, he immediately text our Small Group and asked them to come pray. They dropped what they were doing and came up. No questions asked. There was another instance where one gal heard I was having a meltdown over some news at the hospital and she left her dinner at Applebee's to come up and comfort me.
I still find it difficult to ask for help, but it's come easier to me. The worst anyone can say is no.
On the flip side, I've also learned that these particular words are mostly moot: "If you ever need anything, just let me know." It's only because of my husband that friends and people of the church have come to my aid. I've been too prideful to take them up on their offer.
Don't be the person to echo those words. Make them in to existence. If you really, truly want to help be the person that does it. If someone is going through a tough time or needs consoling, check up on them or take them out to eat. Don't wait on them to come to you. Because, most likely, they'll be prideful like I was.
In summary, the two takeaways I've learned are that it's okay to ask for help and that I will be the person who helps a person out without prompting.
Do you find it difficult to ask for help?