Monday, February 13, 2017
But, it got me thinking: When did some people start treating their marriage like a couch? At what point is it okay to throw in the towel?
I've been married for almost fifteen years. I'm not gonna lie, the first ten were hard. (That's a book in and of itself!) We were self-absorbed and complacent. BUT the last five years have been pretty darn good. But only because we've worked at it.
Get the fairytale scenarios out of your head. Marriage takes work. It takes commitment. It takes both sides. Vows are more than words; They're actions.
Marriage is not a couch, people! Like a couch that we've had around forever, we tend to get comfortable. Or we want to trade it in for a newer, more suitable pattern. Once the fabric gets stained, we freak out and want it removed. We want the pillows on the couch to be placed just perfect. Or we throw our feet up on the couch and expect it not to take the abuse.
There is nothing fun about a fight. Finding the toilet seat up all the time can be annoying. Moans and groans aren't what you want to hear as soon as you come home from work. But if you start treating your marriage better than a piece of furniture, things may actually start to look up. Don't give up on your spouse. Instead, sit down on the couch (literally) and open up the lines of communication. Find out each other's wants and needs. Keep an open mind and don't get defensive.
How long have you been married?
Do you have any tips on keeping a marriage strong?