Thursday, October 5, 2017

Made It To Our Fifteenth Wedding Anniversary

Jason, my mother, and myself at our Six Flags wedding

Jason and I made it being married 15 years (which is big in Hollywood standards)!  He's not perfect, but he's perfect for me.  How we made it this long is beyond me.  The first ten years were sketchy.  We had a lot of growing up to do.  The last five, though, have been pretty much great.

We've learned a lot along the way, on what do to and what not to do.  Here's a few things that's worked for us the past few years:

Communicate, communicate, communicate - If you are feeling a certain way about your partner, let them know.  Don't hold in anger and don't hold a grudge.  Have an adult conversation about what's on your mind and see it from both sides.

Put God first - Jason and I pray together aloud every night.  We also attend church regularly.  We know that our relationship with each other won't work if we don't keep God up front and center.

Pace yourself - I'm not a teetotaler by any means but don't let alcohol rule your thoughts and actions.  It can and most likely will cause problems.

Take classes - Jason and I have attended several classes on marriage, from "Love and Respect" to "Marriage on the Rock".  We've learned a lot about each other and what makes us tick.  For instance, I know his "Love Language" is physical touch, so I get physical with him often.  Even if I'm "not in the mood".  He does plenty enough for me that there's no reason I can't do plenty for him too.

Talk about the big stuff. - Finances and parenting are just a couple of issues we had to learn to discuss in a calm and orderly fashion.  He doesn't always see my side, and vice versa, but talking about it means we can meet in the middle and agree on common ground.

Jason bought me a bouquet of roses for our anniversary.  Sadly, I didn't buy him anything.

Jason and I were married at a somewhat impromptu wedding at Six Flags during Fright Fest.  We were married with twelve other couples.  Imagine how excited we are that we will be renewing our vows next Friday at Six Flags!  It'll be very much like our first marriage, complete with costumes and dead flower bouquets.

To put the icing on the cake my daughter, Shelby, and her fiancee are officially getting married at the same time and same place!  It'll be a family affair.

He's too good to me.

What tips do you have for a lasting marriage?  Have any DOs or DONT's?

4 comments:

Jackie said...

Happy Anniversary! Hope you enjoy your day together!

alissa apel said...

I think it's important to choose your battles. Happy Anniversary!

katy said...

Happy Anniversary! You have good advice.

jjmon2012 said...

Congrats today 15 years are a big deal. My brother and sister in law just celebrated 37 years. They have had their up and their down but the hang in there.