Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Random Tuesday Thoughts - Golfing, Guns, and Bingo

It's Tuesday, and that means it's time for the fantastic fun of Random Tuesday Thoughts.  Link up your randomness at Stacy Uncorked.
It's been a month and a half since my mother passed.  It's still not totally real to me.  Although I'm better these last couple of weeks than I had been, the grief is still so raw and so hard.  People have moved on with their lives.  I have too, but it's different.  It's overwhelming sometimes, and there's a hole in my heart. 
I'm not asking for a pity party by any means, but I absolutely know how someone feels when they say they think of someone every day. 
Maybe it's more in my head than anything, but I hate how people expect that I should be the same.  I should be back to normal.  I'm not.  And I can't say when I will be.
Jason was kind enough to purchase me a set of used golf clubs the other day.  One time on the golf course and we're hooked!  We had the opportunity to go again Saturday morning with another couple.  Never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd take golf up as a hobby.
Jason cooking chicken legs and potatoes on the grill
Saturday evening we went to Whispering Oaks (a local campground) and spent the night with another couple in their camper. 
We were very sketchy at first about going up there.  Whispering Oaks was our second home for five years, and I've seen stuff happen up there that would put most reality shows to shame.  Days of Our Lives ain't got nothing on them!
We gave it up a couple years ago when we realized it was becoming Peyton's Place.  But, after some coaxing from our friends, we decided to check it out again.

Didn't win a darn thing at Bingo
I actually had a good time at the campground.  We ate a ton of food, played Bingo, and danced to a live band.  What made it different this time is that we chose not to be a part of anybody's problems.  A lot of the same people are still up there and so is a lot of the drama but I think us being outsiders this time around made it much easier. 
I have NO plans on hanging out there every weekend like we used to, but I'm okay with going up once in a while.
I can't dance to save my soul, but I like to pretend I got some moves.  The band videoed a couple of their songs and put 'em on Facebook.  With me being front and center, my bad moves are now on social media for the whole world to see.  (Don't ask, I'm not giving up the link or the band name.  I have my integrity to protect!)

Memorial Day food
Memorial Day we hung out with some friends for a low-key supper.  I ate my fair share of food.  Then we went to the field and did some target shooting with our guns. 
How did I live without Hulu before now? 
We have country cable because I'm too tight to pay high prices to watch TV.  I signed up for a free week of Hulu and now I'm hooked.  I can watch all the latest episodes of shows, and it's way cheaper than what the cable company charges.  Not that I have anything against Netflix, but I like Hulu in that I can stream a ton of TV shows the day after they've aired on television. 
My current binge watch is Real Housewives of New York City.  Goes to show that even rich, semi-famous, middle-aged gals got a whole slew of problems all their own.
What did you do Memorial Day weekend?  Do you have Hulu?  What's your randomness for the week?


Samantha said...

Haha I love Real Housewives! Such a guilty pleasure!

Anonymous said...

I don't use Hulu but I could totally see us getting it. Sorry about your mom; I feuded with my mom this weekend and I should feel thankful she is still here.

Cathy Kennedy said...

Terra, sorry to hear about your loss. Grieving is a process. My mother-in-law passed away two years ago next month and that was a hard blow. She truly was my second mom. Your Memorial weekend was an interesting one spent. Every time we're in the mountains I notice campers parked permanently and I figured they're used for weekend retreats or long vacations. I think it's nice to have a place where you can get away like that, but to do it every weekend would be a bit much for me. Golf is a one sport that never interested me. I've only play putt-putt a few times and that's about as far as I'd go with golf. Tennis on the other hand I enjoyed even though I couldn't play very well. Cook outs anyone can totally get behind. Now, I love to grill burgers and steaks! In fact, I'm looking to fix some steaks for outdoors on our upcoming June anniversary. We'll be celebrating 37 years! Hey, I was a child bride! :D We've done the Hulu free trial, but with it being geared toward current TV programs it really didn't suit us. I prefer Netflix over all. The down side is you have to wait a little longer to get to the latest TV show season, though. But, I'm okay with that. It's nice meeting you through Stacy's RTT! Have a good week!

An Apel a Day said...

I just want to give you a hug in regards to your mom. I know I'd be lost without my parents to. I'm thinking of you. Cyber hugs!

I'm glad your hubby bought you golf clubs. It may not take your mind off your mom, but it gives you something fun to do that you both enjoy.

Renee said...

Hmmm, I think I found those videos of you dancing--I love a good challenge but your secret is safe with me (I may not be even looking at the right band) :)

Theresa Mahoney said...

Your golf clubs sound like my husband's kayaking. Bought one on a whim last year and now we try to go as often as possible.

I have Netflix and Amazon Prime. I may look into Hulu if they get some original shows I think I must catch up on.

LA Botchar said...

I'm so very sorry to hear about your mom passing!! Deepest condolences. And don't you worry about how you grieve - it's YOUR process, not another's and you have every right to grieve the way you need too. I would never be "over" my mom's passing. I can't even imagine.

I like the point you made about how these rich wives have all the money and fame, but still seem unhappy. That kind of makes me want to see it because it really is a interesting fact of life. This notion that if we acquire those things, we will be happy. Interesting character study perhaps.

Stacy Uncorked said...

Aw Terra, I'm so sorry for your loss! I totally understand the raw hard grief - time does help, but it's a very slow process. The hubby still has bad days thinking about his dad, who passed late in 2010. So almost 6 years later, that hole is still there (and he's not completely back to what others deem as 'normal'), but it's more bearable compared to the first year. It will get better, but it will definitely take time. Meanwhile, I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers! ((HUGZ!!))

I enjoy playing digital golf - but I bet it would be more fun to play the real thing (well, mini-golf is fun, too...heh!!) Great set of clubs Jason got you! :)

That seems to be the key - enjoy your weekend there but not being involved in the drama. Sounds like it'd be more fun that way! :)

YES! That's exactly why I have Hulu+, because while Netflix is great for shows that are finished with their season (and still you have to wait sooooo lonnnnnng before they're added), with Hulu you can watch *current* shows. I love it! We cut the chord a couple of years ago, and haven't missed not having cable. Between Hulu+, Netflix and Amazon Prime, we have more than enough good stuff to watch. :)

Enjoy the rest of your weekend - and hang in there, my friend.

Unknown said...

I lost my mother over twenty years ago to cancer and I still miss her. I am so sorry for your loss. She died fairly young so the one thing I learned from her death was enjoy your life every single day. I imagine with your work as a 911 operator, you can see how truly fragile life is! I don't take anything for granted anymore since her passing. Hugs to you...