Monday, April 8, 2019

When You Find Out Your Sister's Not Your Sister

Sandy with our "dad"

You know those DNA Ancestry kits that are all the rage these days?  Yeah well, eff 'em all.  They're great for catching the Golden State Killer.  But not so great for families who are okay with how things are.

I won't go into the whole long family lineage but I have a half-sister, Sandy, who is 56 years old.  She was in town a couple weeks ago for a family birthday party but I was several hours away helping my son move.  While I was away, Sandy threw out the truth bomb.  I got to hear about it days later through my other sister.

me and Sandy

I don't know all the details and I'm not sure I want to know right now.  But Sandy found out through one of those stupid DNA kits that our dad is not her dad.  In fact, her real dad is dead.  (Her mom died many years ago.)  

My dad knew this.  He knew he wasn't her father.  And he took that secret to his grave.

Sandy even found out she has a sister - a real blood sister.  Something I'm not anymore.  
They plan to meet sometime soon.

Sandy deserved to know the truth and I hope she gets the answers she needs.  But I'm not going to let a DNA kit tell me she's not my sis.  She has been for 42 years and it's not about to stop now.


katy said...

I'm glad the DNA test couldn't stop the love between two "sisters".

Theresa Mahoney said...

I have blood sisters that I could care less if I ever saw again. My step sister though, I consider my real sister. DNA does not make one family in my book, so I am glad that hasn't changed between the two of you.

An Apel a Day said...

My older sister is adopted. She found her biological siblings maybe 13 or more years ago. It was kind of odd. She talked to her birth mom on the phone. She didn't want to meet her. She was looking for her dad's obituary papers online. Poof there were her mom's. Her mom died shortly after she talked with her. Crazy! She got up the guts to call her brother. He wasn't surprised at all. He wanted to meet her. They knew she was a sister as soon as they saw a photo of her. Can you believe the mom hid her pregnancy from 7 kids!? Most of them were adult kids. My sister's siblings are as old, and older than our parents are. I've met some of them. They are pretty nice. My sister never left us, or anything like that. If anything it brought us closer because she understands herself better. It is weird when her sister is around, and we have to introduce her. "Oh this is my sister's sister." Ha!

katy said...

Blood or DNA does not a family make. I'm glad you sisters are a loving bunch.